The essential habits of a happy parent
As parents, we often think of how to make our children happy and tend to set our happiness aside. However, being a happy parent is more important than you can imagine.
Just a few days ago, my son was not being very polite. I asked him one simple question: ‘Do you want mommy to be happy or sad?’ He said: ‘I want you to be happy all the time‘. His answer shocked me because I stopped thinking of my own happiness the day he was born.
Since that day, I started reading more about happiness, trying to understand how I can be a happier version of myself. Putting aside the usual eat well, sleep well and exercise tips, I found the following habits to be different and enlightening.
How can you be a happy parent?
Challenge your negative thoughts
More often than not, we find ourselves engulfed in negative thoughts. These thoughts stress us out and bring us down. To be a happy parent, you must do the following with will power as your main anchor:
- Actively notice your negative thoughts.
- Jot them down on a piece of paper or add them to the notes on your phone.
- Challenge them and try to come up with more positive thoughts.
- Finally, stop the negative thoughts and replace them with the positive ones.
This will definitely take time, effort and patience. However, it is very doable over time.
- Make real connections
I am talking about real connections here. Whether it is with your children, your spouse or friends, it is time to put down that phone and try to connect on a deeper and more meaningful level. The more you are able to establish real connections with those around you, the more at peace you will be with yourself.
Moreover, to be a happy parent, you need to create meaningful relationships that are rewarding and fulfilling. Your relationship with your children is very precious but it’s not enough for your overall emotional and mental stability.
Live by your values
Living outside your values will make you unhappy. This is why it is essential that you make it a point to live with integrity and follow your values and principles at all times. To be a happy parent, you need to feel whole and undivided and the only way to experience that is by living by your own rules and not allowing anyone to push your priorities off track.
Don’t take parenting too seriously
Just like me, I’m sure many of you are very hard on themselves when it comes to parenting. Here’s a very valuable advice I learned the hard way: don’t take parenting too seriously and don’t beat yourself up about the mistakes you make. Here’s the thing: it’s okay if your child is not potty trained by three. It’s also okay if you enjoy and let go every now and then. Not everything is a crisis. Try to live the moment and enjoy parenthood. Moreover, don’t aim for perfection and end up missing out on the good times you can have with your kids.
What other advice can you give our readers about being happy parents? Don’t hesitate to share your experiences and thoughts with us in the comment section below.